Is it Illegal for a man to have sex with his wife?


The answer to that question is a resounding no! Sex within a marriage is the only form of sex authorized by God—with a sanction—“your desire will be for your husband” (Genesis 3:16). Not even this sanction is broken when a man has sex with his wife. Therefore, what is all the commotion about in the case of the public official who had sex with his own wife, who was suffering from dementia?


From the point of human laws and the law of nature, the husband has done no wrong. But from the point of the Grace of God, who is in each and every human being, empowering, monitoring, controlling, replenishing, restoring and renewing each and every one of us, everything is wrong with a husband or wife having sex with a spouse with dementia.


The Bible declares that everything is legal (permissible), but not all are beneficial or constructive. Therefore, a couple may continue to do what they have always done in their marriage. And whatever they have been doing does not have to be discussed and agreed upon ahead of time. Marriage had made them one, before God and before the world.


Once two people say “I do”, and go ahead and establish patterns for everything in their lives, the parties involved must understand that they are giving each other the license to continue the patterns they have jointly set up for their joint existence. They can only hope that their spouse takes the commitment to love and protect serious enough, to continue to love and protect them in the event of any incapacitation. Marriage truly makes two people one, and there is nothing on earth that has the power to change it, except Grace.


Even unlimited number of laws could not adequately solve the problems of marriage. We neither understand marriage nor respect it. All the attempts made throughout human history to solve the problems of marriage had only exacerbated the problems. But all hope is not lost. So, come with me then to the wisdom of God—the wisdom that provides satisfying solutions to all the issues plaguing the humankind.


 Like Elihu, the young Buzite told Job and his three wise friends:

“Hear my words, you wise men;     listen to me, you men of learning. 3 For the ear tests words     as the tongue tastes food. 4 Let us discern for ourselves what is right;     let us learn together what is good.” (Job 34:2-4)


Mankind’s greatest problem is, believing than the human beings have the capacity to determine mankind’s destiny. For that very reason, mankind has exhausted its resources on the education of the mind, so that the mind could provide all the solutions mankind needs and desires. This exclusive devotion to the mind has taken mankind off course; and threatens to plunge humanity into eternal darkness.   


The mind is all organic and, as such, could not exceed the limits of its constitution and accommodation. Grace, on the other hand, has limitless potential; and is abundantly available to each and every human person. Grace powers all of the human life functions, including that of our organic mind. God ga